Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Where Are All The Men?

I greatly dislike feminism, in fact, I despise it....with a passion.
I once read a book by Anna Sophia and Elizabeth Botkin entitled "It's (Not That) Complicated." It is a wonderful book about (as it says on the cover) "how to relate to guys in a healthy, sane, and Biblical way".
The research they did about so many things is awesome.
The stories they tell of what real feminists have said are beyond disturbing.
They bring up how because of more women wanting to stand up and be more assertive and strong...more like men- the real men are losing confidence, losing sight of what it means to be a real man. We have few gentlemen in the world now and it is because of women. They will not let the men be gentlemen because they think that they are just the same and don't need to be treated in such a gentle way.
Because of this, women are failing, not only in their duty to actually be a woman, but in how we are to lift up men in a gentle, kind, honorable way.
Too many men are falling prey to this and are afraid to actually be a man. These days, women are becoming more manly, and men becoming effeminate, the world is so twisted and messed up, it's frightening.
Women wanting to be the head of a marriage (which is the man's place - Ephesians 5:22-24, 33), men either having no problem with that or being afraid of their wife.
The woman was created for the man (Genesis 2:18-23). A woman, therefore, is a "helper fit" for man. The men are not meant to be the helper in the way a woman is: they are to work hard and protect and take care of their families as best they can and help a lady when she needs help - to be a gentleman, uphold a lady's honor. A man should be ready and willing to give his life for a woman if necessary, without a second thought.
There was a time when men were real men...and it wasn't that long ago, a time when women were ladies and acted like it, when they deserved respect, and real men gave it to them.
Nowadays, so many men have become effeminate, don't know how to be gentlemen, are full of themselves, don't care how they treat a lady, even treat ladies like guys, men who think chivalry is dead, or just don't even bother trying to be chivalrous anymore because they've been put down too many times. Who is to blame for this? Women.
So many women don't want the men to do their job, which is a total blow to their confidence and makes them feel that they're not needed or appreciated.
Why is it so hard to let a man be a gentleman? What is wrong with a man opening a door for us? Or standing so we can sit? Nothing. Absolutely nothing.
If there were more ladies in this world, there would be more gentlemen. Women who deserve respect, and men who would give it to them.
Ladies, the next time a man tries to be a gentleman, let him.
Men, please don't stop trying to be a gentleman because some women don't want to be treated like a lady, that is their problem; you're trying to do the right thing, so just keep doing it. Chivalry is not dead, and many women appreciate it more than you know. Please don't give up.

Grace be with you.